Males who are not Dating Material

How many times have you started dating mister perfect only to discover a few years down the road he was mister so not perfect? I think we have all been there, done that and some of us women keep going right back for more of the same stuff. Here are three types of men you never want to date.

We need to break that cycle and learn how to not date these guys! Yes, I am fully aware that guys also face this dilemma but this page is for the women! The first step is breaking the cycle is to figure out what type of men are out there and then learn why they are not good to date.

This guy thinks he knows why the sun sets, why the boss is doing everything wrong and he even knows when the world will end. He will go to great links to tell you why you should apply for a new job, how you should dress, and how to decorate your house. He knows everything and when you first begin dating, it appears he is well educated and very knowledgeable about life.

After a while of dating, the woman soon realizes that things are not adding up and tries to tell him. That is when the battle begins. Most men who think they know everything think a woman is dumb.

Mr. Competitive

He is doing all types of sports, and he pushes himself to extreme to be the best he can be.

Women see the sexy abs and lust wants a piece of that action.

After awhile you see he is too far into himself.

Mr. Let me help you

This guy wants to help you every way possible. He offers to mow the lawn, help with getting you a different job and wants to make other changes in your life that seem on the level at first.

He is actually trying to mold you into his own likeness. He prefers his woman to be very dependent on him. This is a form of control.

Run for the hills if one of these guys comes around. No man should ever change you or control you and for that matter no woman should change a man into her likeliness either.

Creative Ways to say I love You

How many ways can you think of to say I love you to the one you married or to the special person you want to spend an eternity with without sounding redundant? The proof as they say is in the words and the actions of how you say I love you.

There are many ways to say I love you, including different languages so you can be creative but nothing beats the simple I love you baby! You can also say it with your actions everyday and that is the focus of this article for all of us who are so deep in love that it makes our heads spin

A simple unexpected touch on the arm or shoulder as the one you love in reading or doing housework shows much more then you think. It not only shows that person you are thinking about them, it says hey I love you as well. Next time your loved one is busy or looks frazzled give them a quick pat on the shoulder or a simple touch, it works wonders.

Some woman like flower arrangements but not all of us do, so why not grab a mini rose bush plant she can sit in a window and enjoy. As the rose bush blooms, she will be reminded just how much you love her, this also works for those men who enjoy flowers or plants.

Go have professional photos of yourself taken, and pick up a frame and just set it on the desk of someone you love. 

There are so many ways to say I love you, both verbally and non-verbally. Get up from your computer and go tell someone you adore, that you love him or her; it will bring a smile to both of your faces.

Can you make someone fall in love?

I do not think you can ever truly make a person love you, but you certainly can be everything that person desires and that would make you very love-able for someone else. You cannot change your self into what that person wants you to be if it is to be a loving relationship, for we all know that we need to be ourselves in any relationship.

You can make a cake that someone will love but that love will only last as long as the person is eating the cake. When the cake is gone, so will the love of that cake, until you of course make it again.

Making someone love you works the same way, once you stop being what the person desires the love is gone. Except of course, you keep up inventing your self, as you would bake a cake and that is not healthy relationship.

It would be exhausting for you to say the least this is why it is always important to be your self as it is less work. I am not saying do not change yourself, I am saying compromise goes a long way in a relationship, as long as the compromise is a two way street.

If the one you love is a racing fan, agree to disagree that it is the best sport. If you enjoy skiing but he does not, then again agree to disagree that this is the best sport. He fell in love with who he thought you were do not change your self to try to make him love you, as that is not what he fell in love with.

Falling in love is like a beautiful flower that needs sunlight, water, the right nutrients, and the desire to grow. Falling in love in a natural thing, and cannot be made to happen no matter how hard you try, love needs the right natural conditions as well, and the desire by both people to allow it to grow from a friendship to a love.

Just as you cannot force the flower to grow, you cannot make love grow. True love, like a flower needs to be natural in order to grow, sure you can pull weeds around a flower as you can pull bad situations from a person but that is not going to make the wild natural flower any prettier, as it will not make love any stronger. The wildflower needs weeds to be beautiful, for without the weeds it is just another flower.

You cannot make a person love you no matter how hard you try, but it seems as if this society if full of those people who believe that common myth. You can make many things within the world such make babies, make supper, make love but you can never make someone love you because humans have a thing called free will.

Free will enables us all to make choices good or bad that affect our lives and the lives around us. Free will is given to all humans and this is why you cannot make someone fall in love with you.

There is the saying that you cannot hurry love, and this is true, but so it the saying that you cannot make a person fall in love with you, free will allows us all the choice to fall in love or not fall in love.

What Really Defines Cheating Within a Relationship?

What really is the definition of cheating on a spouse or a partner within a personal relationship? That topic has as many answers as there are people debating it in any given situation. There are different types of cheating in a romantic affair including, emotional, physical and both types of cheating combined.
If you put a thousand people in a room debating cheating you are bound to get a thousand different answers, some similar and some quite different no doubt. What do you consider cheating to be within a personal relationship between spouses or partners?

Cheating in a Chat Room
Is going into a chat room and having a personal chat with someone of the opposite sex who is not a relative considered cheating? If the two were discussing computer, a book or the weather it would not be considered cheating but sooner of later the chat becomes of a more personal nature is heads into the gray area of cheating.

Once the chat becomes of a more personal level and feelings of an intellectual attraction are discussed is this considered cheating? This is where there is a gray area of sorts. You can like someone strictly platonically for his or her intellect and it can be an honest to goodness friendship. It is not considered cheating in most social circles.

This is not considered to be cheating in the true sense of the word, but some people would consider it cheating on a spouse or partner simply because you are in fact forming an emotional bond with someone other then your spouse or partner.

We all know that when the topic of discussion involves playful cyber sex then that gray area disappears for most people, yet some people will say it is just innocent fun. Tell that to the wife who walks in on her husband typing 'romantically' to some one named 'hotstuff694u". Now if that husband is a sweet talker he more then likely will get away with this cyber cheating.

I am not implying that only men do this type of thing, as I have personally seen both males and females engage in this particular behavior. Take this example, a man comes home unexpectedly and sees his wife sitting naked in front of her computer with an assortment of toys, he will have one of two reactions. Either he will enjoy what is taking place before him or he is going to get angry and evict her. If he partakes any form of enjoyment it is not considered cheating to him, but it sure is if he evicts her.

What would you do if you were in his shoes? Do you consider that cheating or playful fun? Would it make a difference if the person your wife were talking to male or female?

Unbelievably some people consider cyber sex with a same sex partner not to be cheating at all. I do not agree with them, if it is something that you would not do with your mother or dad in the room it is cheating. If you have to hide the relationship or even aspects about it, it is considered cheating.

Chat rooms are notorious for getting a bad rap about cheating. Yes, there is cheating going on within chat rooms I will not dispute that for a minute but there are also many people making healthy and non-healthy relationships in chat rooms every second of the day. Not every one is cheating in those rooms, but chat rooms are off limits to some simply out of the fear of chat rooms and their reputation.

After Hours Entertainment
There is nothing wrong with going a few hours to mellow out with your friends after a hard day at work when you are single. However when a husband goes out with the boys after work when he is a family man, that usually means he is cheating to most people especially if he works with a lot of women.

Technically, it is a gray area because it is a group activity or more then three or four people. Unless he is pairing up with one female, it would not be considered cheating by most accounts.
When that husband pairs up with a female for activities within the group, then it slides further into the gray area and things may be getting blurry. As long as no personal information or touching is, taking place it is not considered cheating. All bets are off once the topic turns personal or touching happens by chance. An affair is in the works and cheating will be occurring unless the two people take responsible steps to curb the mutual attraction.

Personal Meetings
Personal private meetings between two people who are married to other people often mean cheating is occurring. That is just plain common sense and if your spouse if doing this then you need to take your stand and stop it. Perhaps you cannot stop the affair, remember this, it will not be an affair if you end the marriage right there.

In an emotional affair, cheating is defined when personal issues come forth to create an emotional bond, and we all know the physical cheating affair. Both types of cheating can be deadly to a marriage or relationship.

Living Together Vs. Getting Married Right Away

Couples who have dated for more then 6 months and are thinking about marriage in the future should live together first for many reasons. This trail period allows them to see if they can get along on a day-to-day basis. They see the little quirks firsthand and can determine if they can deal with it before its nuptial time.

Couples who live together before they are married have a great opportunity to see exactly how their future spouse will be like after the wedding day beforehand. Perhaps he leaves the cap of the toothpaste or she squeezes it from the middle, while those things will not bother most people, some couples will fight over this. There are no surprises like that if a couple lives together first.

It used to be frowned upon to live together acting as husband and wife if you were not married but times have changed. Times have changed and many people cannot live on one income, so pooling those incomes as early as possible helps everyone involved. Money is a huge thing married couple's fight over, and by living together first, you are giving this aspect of married life a trail run as well.

Too many single parents realize it is not just them dating; they are in a way dating the children involved. If those children do not like the other adult, they will create problems with in the relationship. By living together first single parents can have a trail run to see if things will work out with the children who are very much part of the equation.

Couples who live together before the wedding have stronger marriages in my opinion because they truly know each other and do not go into the marriage blindly, as those couples who do not live together often do.

When couples do not live together, everything is a surprise after the wedding. Too many of us try to change our spouses' habits if we do not like this and this sets up for a bad marriage from the start. A neat freak cannot live happily with a slob, and if you are married, you have either to deal with it or be miserable.

Too many times when we settle into a day-to-day routine with a spouse without having lived with them first, problems arise. At times, these problems are easy to get over yet at other times they are insurmountable.

This makes for miserable people who feel stuck in a relationship with nowhere to turn. Had they lived together ahead of the nuptials they would not have those awful surprises.
I believe a couple should live together before marriage so if the differences between the two are too great they can get out of the relationship without having to go through a messy divorce.

Greatest Love Songs Perfect for Anytime

Eighteen of the greatest of all love songs are included here. Make a CD of these songs to express your love.

Beautiful - Amy Grant, this song like the voice of the singer is truly beautiful.

Because I Love You - Jewel tell your special someone who much you love them.

Born To Give My Love To You - Martina Mcbride did you ever find a lover who completed you well this is the perfect song.

Can't Help Falling In Love With You by Elvis Presley. This is wonderful song by the King it will help you declare your love to your sweet heart.

Endless Love - Lionel Ritchie this is the type of love we all want.

Heart And Soul - Air Supply baby I want your heart and soul, perfect song when you want to share how you feel to the one you love.

Hold Me, Thrill Me, Kiss Me - Gloria Estefan nice song that expresses the feelings of many people who just want to tell it like it is, when they are deeply in love.

Glory Of Love - Peter Cetera the glory of love is enchantment, completeness, and fulfillment.

Perfect Love - Trisha Yearwood, yeah this is something we all seek in a relationship.

Your Love Amazes Me - John Berry what a better way to say I love you then with this song?

Greatest Love Of All - Whitney Houston is the epitome of the type of love we all want.

You And I - Eddie Rabbit And Crystal Gayle perfect love song about becoming one with your love.

You Light Up My Life - Debbie Boone great song to let your lover know how they make you feel.

I Just Want To Be Your Everything - Andy Gibb Nicely written song about how this guy wants to be his lover's everything.

Open Arms - Journey Opening your self to the possibilities of love in a relationship.

This Kiss - Faith Hill the perfect kiss ends in a great feeling of utter bliss.

Crazy For You - Madonna Perfect song to express how you feel, when this one first came out I was crazy for my first boyfriend a GI named Tom those were the days.

Safe In The Arms Of Love - Martina McBride a good love will make you fell safe and sheltered.

There Is Love - Paul Stookey is a wonderful song for a wedding, or simply to show your lover how you feel about them.

Top Love Songs

Once in a lifetime we find that special someone who makes our life complete and makes us feel special. Love is hard to find in this world but once you find that special someone you feel that you search is over.

These are special songs to let your sweetheart know that you are so deeply in love with them. These are the love songs that make us go mushy inside and sometimes express the feelings we just cannot find the right words to express.

Its your love Faith Hill and Tim McGraw, is the song that this real life married couple sings about how there love send a shock right through them, and makes them complete.

The love they share is undeniable to everyone who listens to that song.

The song feels so right by Alabama is the song about two lovers whispering in the deep of the night and expressing their love. Spending time quiet time together is so needed in this crazy world when stress is so much a part of this our lives.

Love in the first degree also by Alabama is the perfect song for those couples who have been hurt in the past by others but have decided to give love another chance. When the man in the song finds this love, he wants to his lover to lock him away inside her love and throw away the key.

The closer you get also by Alabama is a song about how love is pushing him over the edge in a good way. He thinks he must be dreaming because it feels right, almost like a dream. The love of a good man or woman whichever the case may be does make us feel loopy and as if it is a dream.

Listen to the radio by Don Williams is a song about a man who is having a hard time expressing the way he feels so he tells his love to listen to the radio. Who has not been in love and had a hard time expressing the right words or having the fear of sounding goofy.

Stuck on you by Poverty Neck Hillbillies, I know this is a new band to some people, but once I heard their version I was beyond hooked I listened to it again and called Ray and played it for him. Stuck on you, got this feeling down deep in my soul, and I just cannot lose. It is a song for those loving relationships that began as friendships. When those relationships blossom into a real deep satisfying love, it is the ultimate kind of love.

Time with you by Billy Carrington is another mushy song that tells your loved one just how you feel. The song is about a man who is missing his love, because of the daily grind. He just wants to spend more time with the one he loves, because life is always taking them away from each other.

Lay you down, by Conway Twitty is an older song but it is a perfect song for expressing your feelings toward the one you love. Lay you down and softly whisper pretty love words in your ears, tell you all the things a woman wants to hear. He appreciates his woman and loves her deeply. He says he will love her even when she is old and will still want to lay her down and whisper those words of love in her ear.

Turn out the lights and love me tonight by Don Williams is a great song to express the love a man has for a woman.

Still the one by Steely Dan is a perfect song for those couples who have been together forever and the love they share still goes on. They are still having fun, enjoying life but remain faithful to each other.

Forever and ever amen, Randy Travis is a beautiful song about how this man loves his woman and will love her forever. We all want a love that goes on and on forever.

Long slow kisses by Trace Atkins, is the song of a man who heads to work and his love says she does not feel as if she is important enough in his life. He makes the decision to call in sick and show her that he loves her. It is a great song for those of us who love songs like this and want to rekindle the relationship or keep it fresh.

 

Welcome to Living the Dating Life

When you are alone, it seems as if the rest of the world is paired up with someone.  After a few of the relationships I have been in I am glad I am single, but on the other hand I am jealous of those people who seem to have found their soul mate.

In two of the relationships I have had, I thought I found it. I was sadly mistaken. However that does not stop me from looking for the man who will make my heart sing and make me glad to be alive.

Granted I don’t need a man to make me glad to be alive, but family and friends can only do so much.  There have been a few times in my life when it felt so good to be held by someone who loved me for me. Unfortunately it has been a few years since I have felt that way.  The last relationship ended in a heartache like the others.

I know that heartache comes for a reason. Perhaps the people were not right for each other. Perhaps one tried too hard to change the other. Such a shame when one tries to change the other. After all they fell in love with the person how they were at first. It makes no sense to me why some people forget that and try to change them.

Anyways on this blog you will see all aspects of dating and relationships. The good, the bad and ugly along with the romantic and messed up stuff. Welcome to my blog.