Avoiding the urge to be clingy in a relationship is hard, at times but how can we figure out how not be the clingy type? We all tend to be a bit needy at different times within your relationships but it is not fair to the other person if we act like a spoiled brat.
I am going to discuss why it is very important in a loving relationship not to be clingy and overwhelming. There is a huge difference between loving someone and controlling his or her actions, and control should never happen in a relationship.
The first thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is trust the other person totally. They are not like your ex, and will not do the same thing to you. Not every man or every woman is out to break your heart or steal your money. Relax and do not blow a good relationship because you feel selfish.
The second thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that the one you love is in love with who you are. That will not change unless you continue to be selfish and that will only serve to drive that person away. Be yourself, the person they fell in love with and not the person who clings and is selfish.
The third thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is keep yourself busy. When you feel like being clingy usually, it is because you are lonely and keeping busy will eliminate that need. Find a hobby, read a book, visit a friend, or clean your house from top to bottom do anything you can do to avoid being selfish.
The fourth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that one you love has a life which you are a part of. You are not that person's whole life and you should not consume them, for that only brings heartbreak to both of you. Do not try to consume their every waking moment of their life; they have jobs and a life outside of you.
The fifth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is allow the other person to be themselves. You fell in love with that person because of whom they were, and if you cling to them for life support then you are changing them from whom you love. You should never want to change someone you love.
The sixth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that if you try to control the actions of the one you profess to love, you will lose that person. Let that person be him or herself. For if you try to control they will high tail it out of the relationship, as no one likes to be controlled.
There are a lost of reasons not to be clingy or selfish in a loving relationship and I hope I have convinced you not to be either.
Saturday, September 29, 2012
Saturday, September 22, 2012
Fairy Tale Love
Falling in love is the most wonderful feeling in the world, but it has to come naturally, if we try to rush love along or make it into something it is not, then it cannot be a fairy tale romance.
When you do find your soul mate, you will no doubt spend hours talking about everything and nothing, perhaps you will just sit quietly together and contemplate life lost in your own thoughts. You soon learn that with a soul mate, life is beautiful once more, and the dark clouds have seemed to fall away, and you wonder how it is that you have made it through life thus far, without them. That funny feeling in your stomach when you make eye contact means you are falling in love.
To be in love is the great feeling in the world, but to find that one true love which is a fairy tale romance is an indescribable feeling of utter bliss. It is like having sunshine every day, and knowing that when you do have a bad day there is someone there to hold you as you cry. It is also wonderful just thinking that someone besides your children thinks you hung the moon.
Trust me a fairy tale romance is not a figment of someone's imagination it does exist, and once you find it you never want to let it go.
Saturday, September 15, 2012
Importance of Saying I Love You
Do you know why it is very important to say I love you to those people you love? Too many times, we just take it for granted that those we love know we love them so we feel as if we do not need to say it.
Those people we love need to know it everyday, because there may never be another time to say it. How would you feel if someone you loved died tomorrow and you did not take the time to tell him or her today that you loved him or her?
Perhaps if more couples told each other daily that they loved them, there would be less affairs, or divorces. When spouses or partners feel loved, it only makes sense that they would be happier within the relationship and not feel the need to cheat or leave. Therefore, it is imperative that you utter those three simple yet heartfelt words every day in a marriage or any type of relationship.
As parents, we often tell our babies we love them and we watch their smiles, yet most parents forget to tell their children that, as they get older. Instead, some parents show their love by buying all types of material goods, which is just showing the children that your love has a price tag.
My children often tell me they love me, because I have done that through out the years with them. I choose to take the time to say I love you to each of them very night, because I felt the need to. As my children grew into the teenage years it became difficult at times, we know how teens can get. However, I choose to do it 'Walton's style', Goodnight Amber, I love you, and I repeated it inserting her brothers' names.
They also heard it as they walked out the door to go to school each morning; in public schools, you never know when the next chance to say I love you will come so it was important to me. This not only let them know they were loved, but it began their day a bit better perhaps because they knew someone loved them.
Perhaps my boys as they will grow up and say the same to their children as their families grow, as my daughter is doing with her children now. This is a wonderful tradition to help spread the love in families and perhaps if more people said those words it would strengthen families. Lord knows this world could use less broken families.
We are all guilty of not saying I love you enough to those we do cherish at some point or another. When you take the time to utter those precious three words, it shows those people you love that they matter in this hard cruel world.
Even if you tell those you love everyday how you feel, it is important to show them just how much you love them by giving them a pat on the back as needed but hugs are a wonderful way to say hey I love you as well.
Those people we love need to know it everyday, because there may never be another time to say it. How would you feel if someone you loved died tomorrow and you did not take the time to tell him or her today that you loved him or her?
Perhaps if more couples told each other daily that they loved them, there would be less affairs, or divorces. When spouses or partners feel loved, it only makes sense that they would be happier within the relationship and not feel the need to cheat or leave. Therefore, it is imperative that you utter those three simple yet heartfelt words every day in a marriage or any type of relationship.
As parents, we often tell our babies we love them and we watch their smiles, yet most parents forget to tell their children that, as they get older. Instead, some parents show their love by buying all types of material goods, which is just showing the children that your love has a price tag.
My children often tell me they love me, because I have done that through out the years with them. I choose to take the time to say I love you to each of them very night, because I felt the need to. As my children grew into the teenage years it became difficult at times, we know how teens can get. However, I choose to do it 'Walton's style', Goodnight Amber, I love you, and I repeated it inserting her brothers' names.
They also heard it as they walked out the door to go to school each morning; in public schools, you never know when the next chance to say I love you will come so it was important to me. This not only let them know they were loved, but it began their day a bit better perhaps because they knew someone loved them.
Perhaps my boys as they will grow up and say the same to their children as their families grow, as my daughter is doing with her children now. This is a wonderful tradition to help spread the love in families and perhaps if more people said those words it would strengthen families. Lord knows this world could use less broken families.
We are all guilty of not saying I love you enough to those we do cherish at some point or another. When you take the time to utter those precious three words, it shows those people you love that they matter in this hard cruel world.
Even if you tell those you love everyday how you feel, it is important to show them just how much you love them by giving them a pat on the back as needed but hugs are a wonderful way to say hey I love you as well.
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Creative Ways to say I love You
How many ways can you think of to say I love you to the one you married or to the special person you want to spend an eternity with without sounding redundant? The proof as they say is in the words and the actions of how you say I love you.
There are many ways to say I love you, including different languages so you can be creative but nothing beats the simple I love you baby! You can also say it with your actions everyday and that is the focus of this article for all of us who are so deep in love that it makes our heads spin
A simple unexpected touch on the arm or shoulder as the one you love in reading or doing housework shows much more then you think. It not only shows that person you are thinking about them, it says hey I love you as well. Next time your loved one is busy or looks frazzled give them a quick pat on the shoulder or a simple touch, it works wonders.
Some woman like flower arrangements but not all of us do, so why not grab a mini rose bush plant she can sit in a window and enjoy. As the rose bush blooms, she will be reminded just how much you love her, this also works for those men who enjoy flowers or plants.
Go have professional photos of yourself taken, and pick up a frame and just set it on the desk of someone you love.
There are so many ways to say I love you, both verbally and non-verbally. Get up from your computer and go tell someone you adore, that you love him or her; it will bring a smile to both of your faces.
There are many ways to say I love you, including different languages so you can be creative but nothing beats the simple I love you baby! You can also say it with your actions everyday and that is the focus of this article for all of us who are so deep in love that it makes our heads spin
A simple unexpected touch on the arm or shoulder as the one you love in reading or doing housework shows much more then you think. It not only shows that person you are thinking about them, it says hey I love you as well. Next time your loved one is busy or looks frazzled give them a quick pat on the shoulder or a simple touch, it works wonders.
Some woman like flower arrangements but not all of us do, so why not grab a mini rose bush plant she can sit in a window and enjoy. As the rose bush blooms, she will be reminded just how much you love her, this also works for those men who enjoy flowers or plants.
Go have professional photos of yourself taken, and pick up a frame and just set it on the desk of someone you love.
There are so many ways to say I love you, both verbally and non-verbally. Get up from your computer and go tell someone you adore, that you love him or her; it will bring a smile to both of your faces.
Saturday, September 1, 2012
Can you make someone fall in love?
I do not think you can ever truly make a person love you, but you certainly can be everything that person desires and that would make you very love-able for someone else. You cannot change your self into what that person wants you to be if it is to be a loving relationship, for we all know that we need to be ourselves in any relationship.
You can make a cake that someone will love but that love will only last as long as the person is eating the cake. When the cake is gone, so will the love of that cake, until you of course make it again.
Making someone love you works the same way, once you stop being what the person desires the love is gone. Except of course, you keep up inventing your self, as you would bake a cake and that is not healthy relationship.
It would be exhausting for you to say the least this is why it is always important to be your self as it is less work. I am not saying do not change yourself, I am saying compromise goes a long way in a relationship, as long as the compromise is a two way street.
If the one you love is a racing fan, agree to disagree that it is the best sport. If you enjoy skiing but he does not, then again agree to disagree that this is the best sport. He fell in love with who he thought you were do not change your self to try to make him love you, as that is not what he fell in love with.
Falling in love is like a beautiful flower that needs sunlight, water, the right nutrients, and the desire to grow. Falling in love in a natural thing, and cannot be made to happen no matter how hard you try, love needs the right natural conditions as well, and the desire by both people to allow it to grow from a friendship to a love.
Just as you cannot force the flower to grow, you cannot make love grow. True love, like a flower needs to be natural in order to grow, sure you can pull weeds around a flower as you can pull bad situations from a person but that is not going to make the wild natural flower any prettier, as it will not make love any stronger. The wildflower needs weeds to be beautiful, for without the weeds it is just another flower.
You cannot make a person love you no matter how hard you try, but it seems as if this society if full of those people who believe that common myth. You can make many things within the world such make babies, make supper, make love but you can never make someone love you because humans have a thing called free will.
Free will enables us all to make choices good or bad that affect our lives and the lives around us. Free will is given to all humans and this is why you cannot make someone fall in love with you.
There is the saying that you cannot hurry love, and this is true, but so it the saying that you cannot make a person fall in love with you, free will allows us all the choice to fall in love or not fall in love.
You can make a cake that someone will love but that love will only last as long as the person is eating the cake. When the cake is gone, so will the love of that cake, until you of course make it again.
Making someone love you works the same way, once you stop being what the person desires the love is gone. Except of course, you keep up inventing your self, as you would bake a cake and that is not healthy relationship.
It would be exhausting for you to say the least this is why it is always important to be your self as it is less work. I am not saying do not change yourself, I am saying compromise goes a long way in a relationship, as long as the compromise is a two way street.
If the one you love is a racing fan, agree to disagree that it is the best sport. If you enjoy skiing but he does not, then again agree to disagree that this is the best sport. He fell in love with who he thought you were do not change your self to try to make him love you, as that is not what he fell in love with.
Falling in love is like a beautiful flower that needs sunlight, water, the right nutrients, and the desire to grow. Falling in love in a natural thing, and cannot be made to happen no matter how hard you try, love needs the right natural conditions as well, and the desire by both people to allow it to grow from a friendship to a love.
Just as you cannot force the flower to grow, you cannot make love grow. True love, like a flower needs to be natural in order to grow, sure you can pull weeds around a flower as you can pull bad situations from a person but that is not going to make the wild natural flower any prettier, as it will not make love any stronger. The wildflower needs weeds to be beautiful, for without the weeds it is just another flower.
You cannot make a person love you no matter how hard you try, but it seems as if this society if full of those people who believe that common myth. You can make many things within the world such make babies, make supper, make love but you can never make someone love you because humans have a thing called free will.
Free will enables us all to make choices good or bad that affect our lives and the lives around us. Free will is given to all humans and this is why you cannot make someone fall in love with you.
There is the saying that you cannot hurry love, and this is true, but so it the saying that you cannot make a person fall in love with you, free will allows us all the choice to fall in love or not fall in love.
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