Is your relationship true love or could it be just lust, and does it have lasting power to endure a lifetime? People often ask this question once they begin a new relationship, and unbelievably there is a simple answer for this age-old question.
The first truth is if you are specifically looking for love all you will find is lust, sadly for everyone actually seeking a true love that is a reality. True love will discover you, and it will not let a person go no matter how firmly the person attempts to shove it away, that is a fundamental truth.
True love feels like magic, while lust will only make you wish you had the magic, if you have to push a relationship hard it is lust without a doubt. True love it will come easily over time it is a magic that cannot be pushed, and true love and lust will both leave you craving more, but what you desire is different.
True love will discover you even when you are not searching for it, and it will blow you off your feet and turn the world, as you know it upside down. While lust will make you breathless for an hour or so if you are fortunate, true love with leave you breathless with each kiss or touch over the lifetime of a relationship.
True love will leave you breathless, and as if you want to learn about your partner on every level, lust on the other hand will leave you feeling like you need to quench the thirst in your loins.
In true love, the sexual gratification is part of the relationship while in a lustful relationship is the only thing that is sought. You deserve the whole enchilada and should never reconcile for just lust, when the real magic of true love is out there for every one.
Lust is looking at someone whom has attractive qualities, you want those qualities, while with a true love, you look at your partner, and you want the whole package faults as well as the golden qualities.
Lust is waking up with some one who is a transient fancy, and true love is as waking up beside your best friend for the rest of your life there is no contest there.
True love is unconditional, and needs no words, while lust is all about excuses, conditional and very little words from the heart. With true love, there are no requirements to make excuses to ourselves or to others regarding the actions of our partner. A person who is truly in love with us while never just blow us off, or put the needs of others before us at any time.
True love is something we all want and sometimes we can actually find it, but it is always found accidentally. Love is not something you will discover as if you were seeking a misplaced set of keys, or a lost dog no matter how extraordinary that dog is.
True love knows no restrictions it will discover us when the conditions are right, and not when the planets are lined up properly and it is everlasting, ever changing, and ever growing.
True love is sitting quietly without words and enjoying time spend watching the world go by, it is walking hand in hand in the suns warmth, and under the moon's glow, love is always present and never falling by the wayside when something better comes along.
Finally yet importantly, lust is for a small amount of seasons, while true love is for the duration of the seasons omnipresent and enduring.
Saturday, August 25, 2012
Saturday, August 18, 2012
What Really Defines Cheating Within a Relationship?
What really is the definition of cheating on a spouse or a partner within a personal relationship? That topic has as many answers as there are people debating it in any given situation. There are different types of cheating in a romantic affair including, emotional, physical and both types of cheating combined.
If you put a thousand people in a room debating cheating you are bound to get a thousand different answers, some similar and some quite different no doubt. What do you consider cheating to be within a personal relationship between spouses or partners?
Cheating in a Chat Room
Is going into a chat room and having a personal chat with someone of the opposite sex who is not a relative considered cheating? If the two were discussing computer, a book or the weather it would not be considered cheating but sooner of later the chat becomes of a more personal nature is heads into the gray area of cheating.
Once the chat becomes of a more personal level and feelings of an intellectual attraction are discussed is this considered cheating? This is where there is a gray area of sorts. You can like someone strictly platonically for his or her intellect and it can be an honest to goodness friendship. It is not considered cheating in most social circles.
This is not considered to be cheating in the true sense of the word, but some people would consider it cheating on a spouse or partner simply because you are in fact forming an emotional bond with someone other then your spouse or partner.
We all know that when the topic of discussion involves playful cyber sex then that gray area disappears for most people, yet some people will say it is just innocent fun. Tell that to the wife who walks in on her husband typing 'romantically' to some one named 'hotstuff694u". Now if that husband is a sweet talker he more then likely will get away with this cyber cheating.
I am not implying that only men do this type of thing, as I have personally seen both males and females engage in this particular behavior. Take this example, a man comes home unexpectedly and sees his wife sitting naked in front of her computer with an assortment of toys, he will have one of two reactions. Either he will enjoy what is taking place before him or he is going to get angry and evict her. If he partakes any form of enjoyment it is not considered cheating to him, but it sure is if he evicts her.
What would you do if you were in his shoes? Do you consider that cheating or playful fun? Would it make a difference if the person your wife were talking to male or female?
Unbelievably some people consider cyber sex with a same sex partner not to be cheating at all. I do not agree with them, if it is something that you would not do with your mother or dad in the room it is cheating. If you have to hide the relationship or even aspects about it, it is considered cheating.
Chat rooms are notorious for getting a bad rap about cheating. Yes, there is cheating going on within chat rooms I will not dispute that for a minute but there are also many people making healthy and non-healthy relationships in chat rooms every second of the day. Not every one is cheating in those rooms, but chat rooms are off limits to some simply out of the fear of chat rooms and their reputation.
After Hours Entertainment
There is nothing wrong with going a few hours to mellow out with your friends after a hard day at work when you are single. However when a husband goes out with the boys after work when he is a family man, that usually means he is cheating to most people especially if he works with a lot of women.
Technically, it is a gray area because it is a group activity or more then three or four people. Unless he is pairing up with one female, it would not be considered cheating by most accounts.
When that husband pairs up with a female for activities within the group, then it slides further into the gray area and things may be getting blurry. As long as no personal information or touching is, taking place it is not considered cheating. All bets are off once the topic turns personal or touching happens by chance. An affair is in the works and cheating will be occurring unless the two people take responsible steps to curb the mutual attraction.
Personal Meetings
Personal private meetings between two people who are married to other people often mean cheating is occurring. That is just plain common sense and if your spouse if doing this then you need to take your stand and stop it. Perhaps you cannot stop the affair, remember this, it will not be an affair if you end the marriage right there.
In an emotional affair, cheating is defined when personal issues come forth to create an emotional bond, and we all know the physical cheating affair. Both types of cheating can be deadly to a marriage or relationship.
If you put a thousand people in a room debating cheating you are bound to get a thousand different answers, some similar and some quite different no doubt. What do you consider cheating to be within a personal relationship between spouses or partners?
Cheating in a Chat Room
Is going into a chat room and having a personal chat with someone of the opposite sex who is not a relative considered cheating? If the two were discussing computer, a book or the weather it would not be considered cheating but sooner of later the chat becomes of a more personal nature is heads into the gray area of cheating.
Once the chat becomes of a more personal level and feelings of an intellectual attraction are discussed is this considered cheating? This is where there is a gray area of sorts. You can like someone strictly platonically for his or her intellect and it can be an honest to goodness friendship. It is not considered cheating in most social circles.
This is not considered to be cheating in the true sense of the word, but some people would consider it cheating on a spouse or partner simply because you are in fact forming an emotional bond with someone other then your spouse or partner.
We all know that when the topic of discussion involves playful cyber sex then that gray area disappears for most people, yet some people will say it is just innocent fun. Tell that to the wife who walks in on her husband typing 'romantically' to some one named 'hotstuff694u". Now if that husband is a sweet talker he more then likely will get away with this cyber cheating.
I am not implying that only men do this type of thing, as I have personally seen both males and females engage in this particular behavior. Take this example, a man comes home unexpectedly and sees his wife sitting naked in front of her computer with an assortment of toys, he will have one of two reactions. Either he will enjoy what is taking place before him or he is going to get angry and evict her. If he partakes any form of enjoyment it is not considered cheating to him, but it sure is if he evicts her.
What would you do if you were in his shoes? Do you consider that cheating or playful fun? Would it make a difference if the person your wife were talking to male or female?
Unbelievably some people consider cyber sex with a same sex partner not to be cheating at all. I do not agree with them, if it is something that you would not do with your mother or dad in the room it is cheating. If you have to hide the relationship or even aspects about it, it is considered cheating.
Chat rooms are notorious for getting a bad rap about cheating. Yes, there is cheating going on within chat rooms I will not dispute that for a minute but there are also many people making healthy and non-healthy relationships in chat rooms every second of the day. Not every one is cheating in those rooms, but chat rooms are off limits to some simply out of the fear of chat rooms and their reputation.
After Hours Entertainment
There is nothing wrong with going a few hours to mellow out with your friends after a hard day at work when you are single. However when a husband goes out with the boys after work when he is a family man, that usually means he is cheating to most people especially if he works with a lot of women.
Technically, it is a gray area because it is a group activity or more then three or four people. Unless he is pairing up with one female, it would not be considered cheating by most accounts.
When that husband pairs up with a female for activities within the group, then it slides further into the gray area and things may be getting blurry. As long as no personal information or touching is, taking place it is not considered cheating. All bets are off once the topic turns personal or touching happens by chance. An affair is in the works and cheating will be occurring unless the two people take responsible steps to curb the mutual attraction.
Personal Meetings
Personal private meetings between two people who are married to other people often mean cheating is occurring. That is just plain common sense and if your spouse if doing this then you need to take your stand and stop it. Perhaps you cannot stop the affair, remember this, it will not be an affair if you end the marriage right there.
In an emotional affair, cheating is defined when personal issues come forth to create an emotional bond, and we all know the physical cheating affair. Both types of cheating can be deadly to a marriage or relationship.
Saturday, August 11, 2012
Living Together Vs. Getting Married Right Away
Couples who have dated for more then 6 months and are thinking about marriage in the future should live together first for many reasons. This trail period allows them to see if they can get along on a day-to-day basis. They see the little quirks firsthand and can determine if they can deal with it before its nuptial time.
Couples who live together before they are married have a great opportunity to see exactly how their future spouse will be like after the wedding day beforehand. Perhaps he leaves the cap of the toothpaste or she squeezes it from the middle, while those things will not bother most people, some couples will fight over this. There are no surprises like that if a couple lives together first.
It used to be frowned upon to live together acting as husband and wife if you were not married but times have changed. Times have changed and many people cannot live on one income, so pooling those incomes as early as possible helps everyone involved. Money is a huge thing married couple's fight over, and by living together first, you are giving this aspect of married life a trail run as well.
Too many single parents realize it is not just them dating; they are in a way dating the children involved. If those children do not like the other adult, they will create problems with in the relationship. By living together first single parents can have a trail run to see if things will work out with the children who are very much part of the equation.
Couples who live together before the wedding have stronger marriages in my opinion because they truly know each other and do not go into the marriage blindly, as those couples who do not live together often do.
When couples do not live together, everything is a surprise after the wedding. Too many of us try to change our spouses' habits if we do not like this and this sets up for a bad marriage from the start. A neat freak cannot live happily with a slob, and if you are married, you have either to deal with it or be miserable.
Too many times when we settle into a day-to-day routine with a spouse without having lived with them first, problems arise. At times, these problems are easy to get over yet at other times they are insurmountable.
This makes for miserable people who feel stuck in a relationship with nowhere to turn. Had they lived together ahead of the nuptials they would not have those awful surprises.
I believe a couple should live together before marriage so if the differences between the two are too great they can get out of the relationship without having to go through a messy divorce.
Couples who live together before they are married have a great opportunity to see exactly how their future spouse will be like after the wedding day beforehand. Perhaps he leaves the cap of the toothpaste or she squeezes it from the middle, while those things will not bother most people, some couples will fight over this. There are no surprises like that if a couple lives together first.
It used to be frowned upon to live together acting as husband and wife if you were not married but times have changed. Times have changed and many people cannot live on one income, so pooling those incomes as early as possible helps everyone involved. Money is a huge thing married couple's fight over, and by living together first, you are giving this aspect of married life a trail run as well.
Too many single parents realize it is not just them dating; they are in a way dating the children involved. If those children do not like the other adult, they will create problems with in the relationship. By living together first single parents can have a trail run to see if things will work out with the children who are very much part of the equation.
Couples who live together before the wedding have stronger marriages in my opinion because they truly know each other and do not go into the marriage blindly, as those couples who do not live together often do.
When couples do not live together, everything is a surprise after the wedding. Too many of us try to change our spouses' habits if we do not like this and this sets up for a bad marriage from the start. A neat freak cannot live happily with a slob, and if you are married, you have either to deal with it or be miserable.
Too many times when we settle into a day-to-day routine with a spouse without having lived with them first, problems arise. At times, these problems are easy to get over yet at other times they are insurmountable.
This makes for miserable people who feel stuck in a relationship with nowhere to turn. Had they lived together ahead of the nuptials they would not have those awful surprises.
I believe a couple should live together before marriage so if the differences between the two are too great they can get out of the relationship without having to go through a messy divorce.
Saturday, August 4, 2012
Hot Sexy Men American Women Love
These are some sexy actors! What better thing to do when you are single then to curl up and watch a movie or two feauring these studs.
Patrick Swayze, Mel Gibson, Sam Elliott, Richard Dean Anderson, Kevin Costner, and John Travolta are all hot sexy men. If there were ever a movie that starred them all it would be hard to choose the sexiest leading man in this group. These are six of the hottest sexy men in the United States in my opinion.
Patrick Swazye, here is one hot sexy man! We loved this man in Ghost, Roadhouse, and Dirty Dancing he is a fine looking man. How many of us would love to be held in his arm instead of Jennifer Grey in Dirty Dancing or Demi Moore in Ghost? Ghost was a romantic movie and it is one of my favorites.
Mel Gibson here is a hot sexy man with a sexy accent. He was the sexiest in Mad Max, Brave Heart, and Lethal Weapon. He is one hot sexy man who could rescue me anytime day or night. I have a thing for sexy accents, and his natural accent is so dang sexy!
Sam Elliott, now that is a long tall drink of water, his voice is unforgettable. He is extremely a hot sexy man with a moustache and a cowboy hat. Roadhouse Tombstone, Buffalo Girls are just a few of that many movies he had a role. He's been lighting up the big screen since 1968.
Richard Dean Anderson, here is a hot sexy man who played the eldest brother of seven brothers. He was married to Hannah in seven brides for seven brothers, and how many of us females wished we were Hannah? You can count me among the millions! He is confident and just looks very nice. His attitude and style in MacGyver made him a hot sexy man in my mind, and in the minds of thousands of women around the United States.
Kevin Costner is very hot sexy man and I like many women around the United States find him sexy. He has beautiful eyes and a nice smile. He was hot in Water World, though a bit crass, but that was how his part was written. He was hot and sexy in Dances with Wolves and of course the Post Man.
John Travolta is also a hot sexy man, wrapped up in a cool dark exterior. He was sexy in the wings when he played Michael; he was also quite sexy dancing around in Saturday night Live. We cannot forget how cute he looked in Look who is talking with those dimples.
I have written my list to Santa for years now asking that he put these six hot sexy men under my tree but they are never there. Whom would you want under your Christmas tree or in your bed if it were only occupied by yourself?
Patrick Swayze, Mel Gibson, Sam Elliott, Richard Dean Anderson, Kevin Costner, and John Travolta are all hot sexy men. If there were ever a movie that starred them all it would be hard to choose the sexiest leading man in this group. These are six of the hottest sexy men in the United States in my opinion.
Patrick Swazye, here is one hot sexy man! We loved this man in Ghost, Roadhouse, and Dirty Dancing he is a fine looking man. How many of us would love to be held in his arm instead of Jennifer Grey in Dirty Dancing or Demi Moore in Ghost? Ghost was a romantic movie and it is one of my favorites.
Mel Gibson here is a hot sexy man with a sexy accent. He was the sexiest in Mad Max, Brave Heart, and Lethal Weapon. He is one hot sexy man who could rescue me anytime day or night. I have a thing for sexy accents, and his natural accent is so dang sexy!
Sam Elliott, now that is a long tall drink of water, his voice is unforgettable. He is extremely a hot sexy man with a moustache and a cowboy hat. Roadhouse Tombstone, Buffalo Girls are just a few of that many movies he had a role. He's been lighting up the big screen since 1968.
Richard Dean Anderson, here is a hot sexy man who played the eldest brother of seven brothers. He was married to Hannah in seven brides for seven brothers, and how many of us females wished we were Hannah? You can count me among the millions! He is confident and just looks very nice. His attitude and style in MacGyver made him a hot sexy man in my mind, and in the minds of thousands of women around the United States.
Kevin Costner is very hot sexy man and I like many women around the United States find him sexy. He has beautiful eyes and a nice smile. He was hot in Water World, though a bit crass, but that was how his part was written. He was hot and sexy in Dances with Wolves and of course the Post Man.
John Travolta is also a hot sexy man, wrapped up in a cool dark exterior. He was sexy in the wings when he played Michael; he was also quite sexy dancing around in Saturday night Live. We cannot forget how cute he looked in Look who is talking with those dimples.
I have written my list to Santa for years now asking that he put these six hot sexy men under my tree but they are never there. Whom would you want under your Christmas tree or in your bed if it were only occupied by yourself?
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