I do not think you can ever truly make a person love you, but you certainly can be everything that person desires and that would make you very love-able for someone else. You cannot change your self into what that person wants you to be if it is to be a loving relationship, for we all know that we need to be ourselves in any relationship.
You can make a cake that someone will love but that love will only last as long as the person is eating the cake. When the cake is gone, so will the love of that cake, until you of course make it again.
Making someone love you works the same way, once you stop being what the person desires the love is gone. Except of course, you keep up inventing your self, as you would bake a cake and that is not healthy relationship.
It would be exhausting for you to say the least this is why it is always important to be your self as it is less work. I am not saying do not change yourself, I am saying compromise goes a long way in a relationship, as long as the compromise is a two way street.
If the one you love is a racing fan, agree to disagree that it is the best sport. If you enjoy skiing but he does not, then again agree to disagree that this is the best sport. He fell in love with who he thought you were do not change your self to try to make him love you, as that is not what he fell in love with.
Falling in love is like a beautiful flower that needs sunlight, water, the right nutrients, and the desire to grow. Falling in love in a natural thing, and cannot be made to happen no matter how hard you try, love needs the right natural conditions as well, and the desire by both people to allow it to grow from a friendship to a love.
Just as you cannot force the flower to grow, you cannot make love grow. True love, like a flower needs to be natural in order to grow, sure you can pull weeds around a flower as you can pull bad situations from a person but that is not going to make the wild natural flower any prettier, as it will not make love any stronger. The wildflower needs weeds to be beautiful, for without the weeds it is just another flower.
You cannot make a person love you no matter how hard you try, but it seems as if this society if full of those people who believe that common myth. You can make many things within the world such make babies, make supper, make love but you can never make someone love you because humans have a thing called free will.
Free will enables us all to make choices good or bad that affect our lives and the lives around us. Free will is given to all humans and this is why you cannot make someone fall in love with you.
There is the saying that you cannot hurry love, and this is true, but so it the saying that you cannot make a person fall in love with you, free will allows us all the choice to fall in love or not fall in love.
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