Being Single in a Dating World

Being single in a dating world is sometimes tough. It seems like everyone else is paired up, either dating or married. Me I am single now, and well do not have plans to change that anytime soon. I mostly like being single.

I have tried the dating sites, and it seems like most of the males who write to me only want one thing. That would be good, if I was only looking for that one thing. Sex is highly overrated, and well after the last three boyfriends, I would rather skip it all together. Yes, perhaps all I need is to find a male who is good in bed to change my mind, but there is more to life then sex.

What about companionship? I miss having a male around to do things with outside the bedroom. Things like watching television, taking a walk or a drive heck even occasionally going out to dinner would be nice. The one thing I do miss the most is just having someone to talk to, other than my kids or my friends. I miss the simple, ‘hey how was your day at work’ type of conversations. I have to admit its also nice waking up next to someone as long as he is not clingy or has been stealing the blankets all night.

Until I find what I am looking for, I am not settling for a half-baked relationship. I want a man who works hard and plays even harder, he needs to know how to take care of himself, and be intelligent. Oafs do not need to apply! It is not that I wish to be spoiled with clothes, jewelry, or other gifts; it is that I wish to be respected in a relationship. I wish to be respected for the person I am, I will be and until then I will remain single. 

Males who are not Dating Material

How many times have you started dating mister perfect only to discover a few years down the road he was mister so not perfect? I think we have all been there, done that and some of us women keep going right back for more of the same stuff. Here are three types of men you never want to date.

We need to break that cycle and learn how to not date these guys! Yes, I am fully aware that guys also face this dilemma but this page is for the women! The first step is breaking the cycle is to figure out what type of men are out there and then learn why they are not good to date.

This guy thinks he knows why the sun sets, why the boss is doing everything wrong and he even knows when the world will end. He will go to great links to tell you why you should apply for a new job, how you should dress, and how to decorate your house. He knows everything and when you first begin dating, it appears he is well educated and very knowledgeable about life.

After a while of dating, the woman soon realizes that things are not adding up and tries to tell him. That is when the battle begins. Most men who think they know everything think a woman is dumb.

Mr. Competitive

He is doing all types of sports, and he pushes himself to extreme to be the best he can be.

Women see the sexy abs and lust wants a piece of that action.

After awhile you see he is too far into himself.

Mr. Let me help you

This guy wants to help you every way possible. He offers to mow the lawn, help with getting you a different job and wants to make other changes in your life that seem on the level at first.

He is actually trying to mold you into his own likeness. He prefers his woman to be very dependent on him. This is a form of control.

Run for the hills if one of these guys comes around. No man should ever change you or control you and for that matter no woman should change a man into her likeliness either.

Cheating Songs

Those cheating songs may bring some folks laughter, while others cry. Yet to others it gives us empowerment after our heart begins to heal. I am one of those people who found empowerment in a cheating song after my husband cheated on me, many moons ago.

Patti Loveless released a song, ‘Blame it on your Cheating heart’ in 1993 and it was not until almost a decade later that this song became my own personal motto. I sung it loud, I sung it proudly, and it helped me get over my lying, cheating husband. With every note, I sung I pictured him. I knew what he threw away without thinking of the ramifications.

There are so many cheating songs that can be found on the Internet and most of these songs can be heard on the Internet. Some of these songs are funny, some are sad, and it seems as if they are in every genre of music. That is simply because cheating occurs in every culture!

Here are some well-known cheating songs that might help you feel better.

"Your cheating Heart" Patsy Cline

"Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood

"Blame it on Your Heart" by Patty Loveless
"Smile" by Lily Allen
"Does he love you (like he loved me)by Linda Davis & Reba McEntire

Goodbye to You" by Michelle Branch
"My Happy Ending" by Avril Lavigne
"You were meant for me" by Jewel

"You must not know bout me" by Beyonce

"Im not suppose to love you anymore" by Bryan White
Sexed up by Robbie Williams
"Your Cheatin Heart" by Hank Williams
"Oh Girlfriend" - Weezer.

"Don't Speak" by No Doubt
"Let it Be" by The Beatles
"I miss you" By Incubus

If you have ever been cheated upon, if so what is your favorite cheating song?

Committed Relationships

Are you tired of being the bad ‘guy’ in the committed relationship when it heads south? Perhaps the word commitment scares you and you high tail it out of the relationship when you hear those words. You are not alone as commitment scares many people out of good relationships on a daily basis. However, please know the word commitment means different things to everyone.

The number one reason marriages or committed relationships flounder or break entirely is the lack of commitment and open honest communication within the relationship. How is one to know what type of commitment the other is looking for if it’s not communicated about.

So exactly what is commitment? That answer depends on whom you ask the commitment question. The answer varies from male to female and even person-to-person. There are different answers between people who are dating long term, living together and marriages. About the only type of romantic relationship where there is no commitment is casual dating.

There seems to be several levels of commitment for couples. Couples who are dating long term but do not live together have one type of commitment, while couples who live together have another type. Each type of relationship has its own level of companionship but the one thing that ties them together is open honest communication. Without that, a relationship is nothing.

It’s hard for dating couples at times to reach that level of open communication. However hard it might be, it needs to be done or you will find your self in a troubled relationship which if not rectified does spell the end of the relationship.

Talk with the one you love and see what commitment means to them. Once you are on the same page so to speak, the relationship may get better.

Aviod Break Ups

Everyone who is in a romantic relationship wishes to feel as if he or she is a priority rather than an option. Once you let friends, family, hobbies, or work become more important than your significant other the relationship begins to flounder.

How do you save a relationship once it begins to crumble?

Sit down and have a heart to heart talk with the one you love. Begin spending quality time together.

Spending quality time together is very important, and quality time is much better than quantity in this case. Quality time is time when you are spent enjoying being together and sex is optional. There are many things a couple can do together that are free to low cost such as taking a walk together, sitting down and watching a movie or going to a concert in the park.

Quantity time is great if you get along, however a couple does need time apart from any relationship no matter how good it is. Taking time away from each other gives the couple a chance to be themselves. This does not mean that couples should spend days or weeks apart, but after an absence, it makes the heart grow fonder.

Remember

1.) Seeing your significant other once a month even thought you live close by and talk to her or him daily does not mean its quality time.

2.) Putting work, friends, hobbies, etc above your significant other does not cut it either. Even if your significant other tells you, they understand chances are they are simmering in the background.

3.) If you have a problem with your significant other chose to talk with them rather than talking to mutual friends.

4.) If you work a lot be sure to spend quality time with your significant other as you can. Do not allow 3 or 4 days to go by without physically seeing them or the relationship will go south.

5.) Sit down across from each other and talk, it will do wonders for your relationship.