Everyone seems to debate the question about having sex before marriage, and yes, I think this is fine as long as it is done with someone you love; therefore, you are making love and not just having sex. Sex is sex, but making love adds a completely new dimension that that is acceptable before marriage.
There is a huge difference between making love and having sex according to the general populace of the world. Anyone who just goes out seeking to be laid is looking for sexual gratification; this includes single as well as married people. These people seek sexual gratification from others in their community for the thrill of it, and most of it has something to do with sexual addictions or unfilled wants at home.
If you love someone completely you are making love and not having sex, and that is the big difference. Having sex is a wonderful part of any loving relationship, so it is acceptable to have sex before marriage in my views if you are in a loving relationship with the person. Making love is merely another way of spending quality time together; it is restful, peaceful, and exhilarating.
If sex was just sex, that would be different but making love before marriage is a great way to express to the one you love, just how much you care for them. In many ways, it does say I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and I need you.
When children see a loving couple married or not they are being sent a strong positive message about the benefits of a healthy happy relationship. As long as the sexual part of the relationship is not being shown to, the child everything is fine and a loving couple married or not is sending the right message to the children.
In today's society with so many broken marriages caused by infidelity, many dating couples who care deeply for each other are not willing to take the legal steps and find them selves back in divorce court. Does this mean they should not express the love the feel for each other? Of course, not they should express love any way they choose to express it. Just because they are scared of the past does not mean they cannot move ahead with their future.
In marriages where the couple is staying together only for legal reasons or the children, making love becomes sex, which is wrong of course. It is wrong because those parents clearly do not love each other, there for it is merely sex.
When those parents seek sexual gratification, outside the marriage, it is called and it is wrong of course. However, it does happen at alarming rates creating broken marriages etc. When those parents are out seeking sex everywhere it causes a huge problem for the children and sends many mixed messages.
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